Be Loud, Be Proud

Ever notice how once you vow to work on something about yourself, you start to become more aware of it and notice other people engaging in that very behavior that you’re trying to avoid?  Yep, that’s how the universe works….I know this is true, and yet it still amazes me every time it happens, as though it’s the very first time I’m coming to that realization.

Something that I’ve been actively working on is acknowledging pride in my accomplishments.  The type-A perfectionist in me has always struggled with being “good enough.”  Rather than seeing my accomplishments for what they truly are, and taking a second to let it soak in and feel good about myself, I tend to immediately move on to the next thing the second after I achieve a goal, without really acknowledging that what I just did was a big deal.

So I guess I shouldn’t have been taken by surprise when I started noticing the little things I’ve heard some of my clients and students say lately, which indicates to me that this way of thinking is a widespread problem.  After congratulating one client on their perfect squat form (fitness peeps: please tell me that you also completely geek out and probably scare everyone in the gym with your enthusiasm when you see someone who was struggling with squats finally get it, or is that just me?), their immediate reply was, “I feel like my core strength still sucks though.”  I gave another student a compliment in Zumba last week and pretty much got dismissed with the wave of a hand and, “Oh, I’m soooo uncoordinated in this class.”

In both instances I stared back incredulously and said something to the effect of, are you kidding me?  Be proud of yourself, right here, right now.  What you’ve just done is an accomplishment, and you should soak it in, and appreciate how far you’ve come.  Maybe not quite so articulately, but you get the point.  I think that constantly negating our achievements can set us up for vicious cycle of never being happy with where we are, which can be detrimental to anyone, whether it’s related to health and fitness goals or our lives in general.

Of course I know that shifting this way of thinking is easier said than done, so I thought that maybe if I shared a few things that I’m really proud of right now, it would encourage you to do the same.  Because you have nothing to gain from not recognizing that you are pretty awesome, and you are capable of achieving some pretty awesome things.  It doesn’t matter how big or how small it is – whether it’s doing 1 real push-up, or landing a huge business deal – taking pride in ourselves and what we’re capable of is only going to make our lives better.  Don’t focus on what you think you can’t do, focus on what you just did.  Make that your motivation.

I’ll start: I’m really proud of the fact that, in this past month, I feel like I’ve really grown as an instructor and a trainer.  After doing this for almost nine months now, I finally feel like I’m starting to hit my stride and gain confidence in my abilities.  I’m proud of the fact that I’ve been able to fit in most of my own workouts recently (even if it’s only 15 minutes) despite maintaining a ridiculously packed schedule each day.  I’m also proud that I made the time to chat with you guys today on this little blog, after neglecting it for a few weeks!

Now it’s your turn.  What are you proud of right now?  Feel free to toot your own horn in the comments below, or hit me up on Facebook or Twitter!

It’s Not About Perfection

I hope everyone had a Happy (and safe) Halloween!  My Halloween Zumba class last night was a success – let me tell you, that’s a dedicated bunch that decided to forego the parade, the bars and the candy in favor of dancing with me, and so I want to thank them all for coming!  If you like my page on Facebook, then you know that we ended up dancing to the theme from Ghostbusters, “The Time Warp” from Rocky Horror Picture Show, “Thriller” (of course), “The Monster Mash” (anyone else feeling all those squats and lunges today?!), and my favorite, the Warren Zevon classic, “Werewolves of London.”

I decided to dress up as the Black Swan from the movie last year, and while the costume idea came from the fact that I wanted something that would be easy to dance in – making this the obvious choice – last night during class I was thinking that it was actually a pretty good selection for me.  Sure, the movie was pretty dark and twisted, but one of the elements that I could relate to in the movie was Nina’s (Natalie Portman) obsession with perfection.  She was consumed by the idea playing the role of the Black Swan perfectly, but it was this obsession with detail and precise technicality that was ultimately her downfall.

Maybe it’s a little bit of a stretch (okay, maybe a lot) but I remember leaving that movie being utterly creeped out thinking that it served as a good reminder for me not to be quite so regimented and hard on myself when I wasn’t “perfect,” which is something I’ve struggled with in many areas of my life.

As a dancer, Zumba has taught me this lesson, too, because it’s all about feeling the music, rather than executing the moves flawlessly.  I tell my students all the time not to worry about getting the moves “right,” and that as long as you’re moving and having fun, then it’s all good.  I love the freedom that this sentiment brings, and I think it’s definitely helped me to have more fun in my classes.  I was the girl on my dance team who always won the “Most Snappy Dancer” award (“snappy” = precise), and even Tanya Beardsley herself joked about my technicality when I mimicked her pose in our photo together at my Zumba training.  But I’ve definitely loosened up since, and since I’m having fun, I hope that I’m imparting that mentality to my classes as well.

I also think it’s a good reminder for all of us to keep in mind when it comes to our health and fitness in general.  So what if you ate too much candy last night, or if you skipped your workouts for a day, a week, or even a month?  It won’t help to beat yourself up about it. Life is not about perfection.  It’s about doing the best you can, moving on from your defeats and getting back on track while keeping your sanity.

Hmm, maybe Black Swan could’ve used that advice, huh?

You’re Invited…

…To my Special Zumba Halloween Bash!!

Who: Anyone in the NYC & Brooklyn area who is looking for a scary good workout on Halloween.

What: We’ll be doing some of our favorite Zumba routines, along with some special Halloween songs mixed in!

Where: Quick Fitness Gym

When: Monday, October 31st at 8:30 pm

Costumes are highly encouraged!  This will be a blast, I promise :)

*If you’re not a Quick Fitness member, email me, as I have a few guest passes available.  There is also a day-rate option for non-members.  Contact me for details.